I want to clarify my earlier post, just in case I get some anons, which I doubt, but hey, whatever.
The reason why it’s so bothersome to receive catcalls, or to be casually referred to as “gorgeous” is because generally, I’m not on a familiar level with the person. I immediately interpret it as a possible threat, and I feel that I’ve lost control of the situation. There is no “good” way to respond to something like that, it’s just uncomfortable all-around. And then, even if I were familiar and comfortable with them, it’s still grossly tacky. You think I’m attractive and you want to let me know it? There’s MUCH better ways to go about doing that. Such as saying, “you look nice today.” Or, “it’s nice to see you smiling”, etc.
Random rant from being a tutor;
A teacher/professor may be boring, may not explain things well, or they might not connect well socially with students, but TEACHING IS FREAKING HARD.
Everyone has a different learning style, and every teacher has a different teaching method. Now that I’ve tutored groups, I’ve realized how complicated and frustrating this can be, not only for a student (who at best only spaces out when they’re not receiving the instruction they need) but for the teacher as well.
I’ve lately been seeing a fair number of people online complain about their teachers, and I just wish that they could give a whack at it. They’d realize it’s not as easy as they think. OR they’d realize that they’re good at it, and we’d have a good instructor to add to our ranks (not that I consider myself on the same level as teacher— quite the contrary.)
On another note, any teacher/professor who is rude, mean, or in any way puts down a student for asking a question is definitely worth complaining about. That’s a whole different ballgame. :)